When a friend asked me my take on whether women secretly revel in being gawked/whistled at, straddling the disgust at and pleasure of being objectified:
"Initially -and I think this goes for even uncontroversial exchanges- we like to think that we don't need it, that we are above it (favoring the disgust, or indifferent, viewpoint); but we secretly pocket this feedback nonetheless, and replay it as positive feedback (favoring the pleasure interpretation) when a time comes that such a buffering effect, as might be afforded by such feedback, may be needed."